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How often do you think about what you CAN’T see?

When we see others’ successes, are we able to notice the work that was implemented? (not always a lot, but it’s worth it being smart, step by step)

When we look at photos or stories on social media, do we remember that it’s a fragment of reality, a moment captured in a frame/post? That life is much more colorful, complicated, full of the entire spectrum of experiences? (what we see doesn’t have to be a lie at all, but it’s certainly not the whole reality)

When someone is unkind, or doesn’t respond for a long time, how can you be sure it’s about you? Do you consider that this person might be experiencing tremendous pain, illness, death, divorce, breakup right now and is drowning in the fight for breaths of air, surfacing above water? (really, others think about us much less often than we think they think about us)

Even we ourselves don’t know everything about ourselves, we’re blind and deaf to some parts of ourselves. Heuristics.

With the thought of stopping before we judge. Of listening before we mentally categorize something in our heads. With this thought, I started journaling today.

Today my perspective while writing was my favorite. At dawn, in the darkness and silence of the morning. By candlelight, with coffee from the best Fanaberia Republika Rozmaitości. But what you don’t see in this first frame is being wrapped in two blankets, hooded sweatshirts, glasses… And both are true – both the one warmed by the candle in the morning, and the one requiring bundling up.

I wish each of us an expanded perspective. Noticing what we don’t see at first glance. Listening to what’s not direct, but communicated almost in a whisper, with fear of being hurt.

Seriously, literally – because maybe you have an employee next to you who deserves a promotion, a raise, but looking at them through only one frame doesn’t allow you to notice this?

Maybe you have someone in your environment who at first, or even second glance, seems to be doing fine, but if you looked at the backstage, they actually need a friend, someone to listen, help, just being with them, convincing them that you’re there?

Or maybe go wild and besides listening to your inner critic (because the bastard can be loud), look at yourself from the side, at yourself from now, not from the past, and appreciate the path you’ve walked and the hardships you’ve overcome? Update the frame of your life.

Have a beautiful day with an expanded perspective.

Clients pay me to be in their backstage, outside the frame, and a lot happens there, hence the intentional and purposeful content placement. Too many great people are waiting to be noticed in their entirety, not just in a selected frame. See them, notice them, appreciate them. Yourself too.